“Are you ready for some football?????” Yeah, it’s football season, and I have Hank Jr on my mind but when Coaching for Business’s the song has to be”¦
“Are you ready for some Feedback????”
One of the biggest gifts (or curse, depends on the day) that I possess is helping my clients see how they “show up”. I have a long list of satisfied clientele that will attest to my abilities on this subject. My techniques are geared towards slowing down my client, and getting them in the “now”.
All while helping them understand their emotions. From this deeper place of understanding themselves they can then move more powerfully towards what it is they want. At some juncture I have them fill out a 360 feedback so they can get another perspective on how they are showing up. I love and use Brene Brown’s feedback checklist in her book Daring Greatly.
(This is definitely worth printing off and sharing with your TEAMS.)
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
People are desperate for feedback, we all want to grow.
Vulnerability is at the heart of the feedback process.
I know I’m ready to give feedback when:
- I “˜m ready to sit next to you rather than across from you
- I’m willing to put the problem in front of us rather than between (or sliding it toward you)
- I’m ready to listen, ask questions, and accept that I may not fully understand the issue
- I want to acknowledge what you do well instead of picking apart your mistakes
- I recognize your strengths and how you can use them to address your challenges
- I can hold you accountable without shaming or blaming you
- I’m willing to own my part; I can genuinely thank you for your efforts rather than criticize you for your failings
- I can talk about your efforts rather than criticizing you for your failings
- I can talk about how resolving these challenges will lead to your growth and opportunity
- I can model the vulnerability and openness that I expect to see from you
Your path is your path. It is perfect in every way. The question is “What are you willing to do about it?” Are you brave enough to get the feedback you so sorely need to move forward?
What is stopping you (besides fear of being vulnerable) from seeing and understanding, on a deeper level, how you are showing up? How about you cut yourself some slack and give in”¦?
Find out for yourself. Ask for feedback. After all, “You don’t know what you don’t know.”