Have you ever been in a conversation that was riddled with “should be’s”…

  • I really should be doing more with my life
  • The company I work for should be more proactive
  • I’m educated, but not utilizing my education, I should be doing something different
  • My peers should not be so friggin’ lazy
  • I should probably be doing more of what I think I was put on this planet to do
  • I’m living a life that others would die for, I should be more grateful
  • Management should be doing a better job of leading
  • The owners of this company are afraid of conflict and should step down

Blame is the culprit of “should be’s.  It’s everyone else, not me.

If a person is not happy…why not change?  Isn’t that the next logical step?

You can’t, if you are not awake.  Not being conscious (not awake) will cause you to be reactive to every situation in your life.

By blaming others, you do not have to take responsibility for the change you seek.

Blame = Shame.

Shame paralyzes change.  If you are stuck, not able to change?  Look for the shame.


There’s some great books out there on Shame.  My favorite is Brené Brown’s work.  Namely her first book, Daring Greatly.

Saturday, August 12th, I get to co-facilitate a 1 day workshop on Daring Greatly with my friend and colleague, Elizabeth Nicolosi, in the beautiful Sonoma Hills of Napa Valley, California.

We are going to talk about how vulnerability is our greatest measure of courage.

Elizabeth is a certified Daring Way professional, she will walk us through the research and science of Dr. Brené Brown.  Please watch this if you haven’t already: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.

Dare to be great, come to this event!  For more information: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-daring-waytm-workshop-in-sonoma-ca-tickets-34775208585


What if you are exactly where you are supposed to be?

What would that be like?  To really know that you are exactly where you are, for a reason.

You wouldn’t have anyone to blame.  It’s all a choice, your choice to feel the way you feel.

Wouldn’t that be a relief?

And, what if you were able to change the status quo, only after you embraced the reality that you are where you are, for a reason?


If you want change, the first step is to own that you are where you are at for a reason, and that you are playing a part in the role.

Or, be happy where you are.

It is totally your choice.